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Happy Glow: Become Who You Want to Spend Your Life With

February 13, 2023 by Linda Varone

Too often, people use Feng Shui to bring romance and happiness into their lives only by enhancing the Chi in their home’s Romance/Marriage area. Use Feng Shui with more wisdom to create more happiness for yourself now; instead of waiting for someone special to come into your life, bringing romance and joy with them.

“Perhaps the biggest mistake I made in the past
was that I believed love was about finding the right person.
In reality, love is about becoming the right person.
Don’t look for the person you want to spend your life with.
Become the person you want to spend your life with.”
– Neil Strauss www.livelifehappy.com

Happiness isn’t only found “out there” in some magical someone; happiness is in yourself, your outlook, and the life you live. Become that person who glows with happiness.

The Glow of Happiness

Think of the people in your life who glow with happiness. That glow works as a people magnet, drawing others to them. Every time a friend I worked with arrived at the office, every one, one by one, would pop their heads above the cubicle walls and smile at her. At that moment, the office looked like a prairie dog colony. And people stopped by her cubicle too. Despite her life challenges, she had that infectious glow of happiness.

How to Cultivate Your Happiness

A recent article in the New York Times, How To Be Happy, points to several studies about personal happiness and draws insights from them. Number 1 on the list was getting in the habit of Conquering Your Negative Thoughts.

Conquering Negative Thoughts

Everyone has negative thoughts, but if they dominate your thinking, they will bring you down. Focus on the positive things in your life and the more positive and happy things in your future. When you’re aware of having a negative thought, stop and think of something positive. Don’t criticize yourself for negative thoughts, be kind to yourself as you would be to a friend. And just like a friend would help you to have a better perspective on your situation. Conquering negative thoughts is not a “done and dusted” task but the development of a life-long skill.

“Only connect!” – E M Forster

Spend Time with Happy People

COVID took a hit on our social lives. Now is the time to reconnect with old friends and reach out to new ones. In. Person. Each additional happy friend in your life will increase your happiness by 9%. It’s OK to keep a distance from the grouches and complainers.

People who get married experience a slight boost in their happiness, but this lasts about two years. “…[I]f you are an already happy person, you will not gain much extra happiness from marriage.” – Tara Parker-Pope, How To Be Happy

Chances are, while you are busy glowing with happiness,

your glow might attract someone who wants to share their joy with you.

How to Use Feng Shui to Help You Glow

People reflexively energize the Romance/Marriage area of the Ba-Gua when they want to bring or boost romance in their life. The Romance/Marriage area is effective, but activating the Helpful People/Travel and Wisdom/Inner Life areas of the Bagua first might be more effective for your happiness now instead of waiting for someone to bring happiness to you.

Below is a diagram of the Ba-Gua with foundational Guas noted. Place meaningful cures in each area you want to bring positive energy into your life. When your happiness grows, you can enhance the Romance/Marriage Gua to better effect.

For blog posts on how to Feng Shui your bedroom the traditional way and a sweet Valentine’s video, check out these links:

https://www.lindavarone.com/1452/a-valentines-video-for-you/

https://www.lindavarone.com/1531/feng-shui-for-valentines-day-and-beyond-6-steps-to-make-your-bedroom-a-sensual-retreat/

https://www.lindavarone.com/1249/feng-shui-romance-and-a-sweet-valentine-video/

Click here to read the New York Times article “How To Be Happy” by Tara Parker-Pope.

Feng Shui, Romance And An Oscar-Winning Valentine Video

February 13, 2013 by Linda Varone

Feng Shui and Romance

Valentine’s Day draws our attention to gifts, events and simple gestures that say “I love you”. Feng Shui encourages you to build that romance into your home and into your daily life, not save it up for one special day a year.

vintage valentine with young boy and gilr — Feng Shui romance is more than campagne and chocolates.

Set up your bedroom to encourage romance, or add romance throughout your home.

Romantic lighting is not just for the bedroom. Light is a form of energy. When added to a space it adds energy, yang energy. When light is dimmed or turned down that encourages relaxing and romantic yin energy. In your living room, place a lamp or two next to your favorite sofa or love seat. Ideally used lamps with a 3-way switch or dimmer. Set the lights on low. Dim or turn-off the other lights in the room. Add wine or decaf cappuccino. Play some soft music. This is great for after dinner-for-two or after the kids are down for the night.

Create the space and time for you as a couple.

If that special someone is not in your life, do an intention and visualize that special person and what you do together as a couple.

My valentine to you.

This charming video of an Oscar©-nominated [now Oscar©-winning] animation short by Disney is an object lesson in getting the love you want.

A strong intention includes:

Identifying your goal. (Paperman was a bit slow on the uptake.)
Persistent effort (He was persistent and used more than one approach.)
Accepting help that comes your way. (Paperman’s help was magical, but sometimes the most magical things in our lives look very ordinary.)

vintage valentine photo by Mark Gstohl

Feng Shui for Valentine’s Day and Beyond – 6 Steps to Make Your Bedroom a Sensual Retreat

February 12, 2013 by Linda Varone

Chocolates, champagne, and silky camisoles are the stuff of Valentine’s Day.

Simple Feng Shui changes to your Master Bedroom help you celebrate Valentine’s day 365 days a year.

heart-shaped valentines candies — Simple Feng Shui changes in your bedroom for Valentine’s Day 365 days a year.

As a home and office design consultant, I often see clients with beautiful homes but their own bedrooms are merely functional. A room with a bed, a bureau and a bathroom, period. Not very romantic. Feng Shui helps you make simple changes to make your bedroom into a sensual retreat for you and your special someone. Instead of a total makeover with bordello red wallpaper, architectural psychology lets you be more subtle and more effective. How about tactile delights, adjustable lighting, and artwork or mementos with special meaning for both of you?

Before you bring in anything new, start with a simple de-cluttering. Feng Shui tells us that clutter under a bed will negatively affect the energy of the people using that bed. So clear out that jumble of shoes. If you really need to store things under you bed, be sure that it is well organized and easy to access.

1. Touch – A sensual room has inviting fabrics. From chenille to cashmere, or satiny high thread-count cotton sheets, use fabrics that ask to be stroked.

2. Color – Colors create atmosphere. Even though red is the color of romance I do not recommend red walls. Red walls create too much fire energy and you will have difficulty sleeping. Also a red room will cause either heated arguments or hot sex, I can’t guarantee which. Red accents are great, but no red walls. I do recommend wall colors that have warm undertones. You can even find blues and greens with warm undertones. Flesh tones are especially good, from a beige pink to salmon.

3. Light – Overhead or recessed lighting is simply not romantic. Create the right mood with a lamp on each side of the bed. This will give the space energy and warm illumination. Use incandescent (Edison) light bulbs in those lamps to create pools of warm light, like candle light, that draw you in.

4. Sound – Play music: your favorite jazz, show tunes, or whatever your heart suggests. The sound of a water fountain can be soothing; while sounds of nature, leaves rustling in the trees, birdsong can be enjoyed through an open window.

5. Personal Decoration – On home consultations, I often see master bedrooms decorated as if only the woman of a couple, lives there. This is completely unintentional. It is important that there be decoration or personal mementos that represent each member of the couple and the couple together. I do not encourage crossed hockey sticks over the head of the bed, but include something from both of you.

6. Feng Shui – Identify the Marriage – Partnership – Romance corner in your bedroom. Stand in the doorway facing into your room, the Romance area is in the back right hand corner. The energy in that area has a direct impact on the energy in your love life. First de-clutter it. Then place a wonderful memento of your relationship there: a current photo of the two of you or a souvenir of a wonderful trip you took together. You get the idea. If you don’t have someone in your life yet, then you can use symbols or metaphors: a picture or statue of a romantic couple, two flowers or two of something that symbolizes romance for you. Add an intention for romance and joy, now you can have Valentine’s Day every day.

I wish you much love and happiness. Linda

photo by dave parker flickr creative commons

3 Tips for Powerful Feng Shui Intentions: Intention is Faith plus Action

November 14, 2012 by Linda Varone

“The attempt must be made; the outcome is irrelevant. Right action is a pale material reflection of the divine, but reflection it is, nonetheless. Define your goal and exert reason to accomplish it by virtuous action; success or failure is secondary..” – Iain Pears, The Dream of Scipio

Feng Shui without intention is just moving stuff around.

Arranging things is important to enhancing and balancing the chi energy in your home or workspace. But to get the best results you must add an intention.

What is an intention? A wish, a dream, a goal, a prayer? It is all of these. But to make your intention come true you must include action to make your goal happen. No passive wishing. You must add your own energy into the mix. With your intention, think of the steps you need to take to make your dream come true. And then start doing them.

Intentions are faith plus action plus letting go. Writing down your intention is one step.

If you want to meet your Prince or Princess Charming, you are not going to find him or her sitting at home. (Unless you have a crush on your UPS person.)

Get out and meet people,
Get involved in organizations,
Do things you enjoy.

I can’t think of a better romance attraction magnet than enjoying yourself.

If your intention is about business or career success:

What steps do you need to take to make it happen?
What do you need to learn?
Who do you need to meet?

Get out there make your dream come true, then you will bump into Good Luck.

I teach my clients a beautiful intention ritual to help them clarify their goals, the steps toward that goal and how to offer this to God/The Universe.

The essence of this ritual is:

Have faith in your intention,
Be active in making it happen – use your energy to create more energy
Let go of the outcome – this is easier said than done, but important

Do your best. Live and act in the moment. Trust that what you need will come to you.

And be mindful of your blessings with gratitude. Read this post about The Seed of Happiness.

If you want help visualizing the changes and blessing you want, here is a post about a powerful way to use Vision Boards.

If you want a Feng Shui consultation to improve the energy in your home or workspace, improve the energy in your life, and activate your intentions, please contact me at 781-643-8697.

photo by julie jordan scott